Remula Wazokana's Dreamwidth

So I've been meaning to talk about hand-holding and all that jazz for a while now.. And here we are! I would much rather be reading the fic I was on before, but I said I'd do it today, so yeah. I'll try to make it as understandable as possible since it's something hard to explain without.. demonstrating? Or something like that..

Okay, the point of this is not really about hand-holding, per se, but about what is implied from it. Yeah, you're probably thinking, "What the shit is this loser smokin'?!" but just try and follow me for a minute. XD I mean, I'm sure not many people even think about this stuff, so yeah.. Because I'm weird and I do, I have to share this information and all. XP

So yeah.. I don't know how to start it, but here goes..

Think of a person you've held hands with. We'll assume it's a relationship for this, since it's easier, but from my experience, it can apply for anyone no matter the relation or whatevz.

So, that person you're imagining holding hands with ((assuming you've actually held their hand and know how your hands work together, haha)) -- I'm talking with your fingers interlocked or whatever.. I guess that's the best way to describe it.. But yeah, you're holding hands with interlocking fingers. Now, think about the positioning. Who's hand is "in front"? If you can't understand in front, interlock your own fingers for a moment and look at your hands. The hand with the thumb on the top would be the hand "in front". So now, back to you and the other person interlocking fingers -- who's hand is in front?

Now, let's think about your relationship with this other person. There's always one person who's "in charge" -- you know what I mean. I don't think I have to explain that concept to you. So there's a person who's "in charge" or more dominate in the relationship. I don't think it's that hard to figure out who that person is, but yeah, if you need a moment, take this time to reflect and come up with an answer.

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Okay, now, for the grand finale. =O That person who is more dominate... Is it the same person with their hand in front? The answer should be a resounding "YES! HOW DID YOU KNOW?!~" haha, because I've never experience that not to be the case in my observations. ((Yes, I'm a freak, I look at people's hands sometimes to know more about a 'ship. So sue me for people-watching. XP))

And now.. Examples just because I don't want to sound like I don't know what I'm saying.. XD

When me and bobbleheadvi hold hands, I'm in front. Yeah, I know. I'm a pushy one, aren't I? But yeah.. I think I do sometimes take a more dominating role in our relationship and yeah.. But when we first got together, during the first few days, it was awkward because we were both front people. What I'm saying is, we first held hands, he grabbed mine and laced them so he would be in front. I let that go on for a few minutes and then rearranged our hands so I'd be in front. Overtime, I guess he got used to me being in front and so, later on, if I laced our fingers with him in front, he would shift it so I'd be in front. So basically, he gave over the dominance to me. ((And yeah, I don't particularly like the word dominance, but I can't think of any other appropriate word to refer to it, so yeah...))

When me and aznearthdragon hold hands, I'm in front also. If you know me and her, then you'd understand that I kinda do have more power in our relationship and that's just how it is. It's always like that and I don't think it's changing anytime soon, haha. And yeah, when we used to slow-dance together, I'd be the dude. It's a sad thing, haha. XP She can't figure out how to be the "dude" whenever I wanna switch, lol. XD

When aznearthdragon and Teng were together, she told me that they were both the "submissive" type because where me and bobbleheadvi were fighting for the front, they were both fighting for the back. It ended up being aznearthdragon in front. Because of this, she also took over the more dominate role in the 'ship, even though they don't didn't want to be that person 'cause, you know, no matter what, someone has to be that person. XP

With aznearthdragon and Kevin, it's the same thing. They both want to be in back, but once again, aznearthdragon is in front. You get what I'm saying, so I won't explain.

When Cathy and Yann are holding hands, I believe ((I think I've only seen them holding hands once or so, so I can't remember well...)) Cathy is in front. She's the more "manly" one in their 'ship, so even though I don't know for sure how their hand-holding is, I'm positive I'm right.

So yeah.. I don't have any more examples to give. ^_^;;

To summarize: When people hold hands with interlocking fingers, there's a hand in front and a hand in back and the one in front is the "man" of the relationship.

So now's your chance to tell me if this is true for you and/or your friends. XD

~Remula